You’ve probably heard something like this before:
“I can’t give you what you want right now.”
“I do want to be married someday.”
“I’m not trying to rush anything, just going with the flow.”
“We don’t need a title I’m only dating you.”
Sounds reasonable on the surface… but what it really means is:
He doesn’t see you as his wife.
One of my clients had been seeing a man for about four months consistent dates. Sweet texts. Just enough effort to keep her emotionally invested.
Then he said,
“If you want to date someone else, I understand.”
That was the moment she realized he wasn’t preparing for partnership.
He was just enjoying her presence while staying emotionally non-committal.
You stay “talking” to a man long after he’s shown you he’s not serious. Not because you’re desperate—but because you’re hopeful. You want to see it through. But hope without direction leads to delay.
Start dating with a clear timeline for clarity.
I tell my clients:
Within 3 months of quality time together, you should have enough peace and evidence to know if this is building toward engagement within the next 6 to 12 months.
If not it’s likely a dead-end disguised as potential.
You might be thinking,
“But what if I leave too soon and miss something real?”
Let me be honest.
If it’s real, he’ll rise. If it’s confusion, he’ll stall.
Clarity comes from you both wanting the same thing. Not you waiting for him to decide after months of quality time and being together. Your job is not to convince someone to be ready.
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