“I’ve been single so long, I don’t even know how I’m supposed to meet my husband.”
That’s what one of my clients told me. She wasn’t hopeless. She wasn’t bitter. Just tired of trying to figure it out by herself.
She had been holding it down for years. Career, healing journey in progress. But love? It still felt out of reach.
And the truth is, she didn’t need another dating app.
She needed a new strategy.
Not one rooted in chasing or performing—but in creating space for the kind of love she actually wanted.
Here’s the shift that changed everything.
1. Start Making Room for the relationship You’ve Been Praying For
You get used to doing life your way when you’ve been single for a long time. Your schedule, your time, your rhythm.
But marriage is a shared space. It requires room. Mentally. Physically. Emotionally. Spiritually.
And if your whole life is still arranged for being solo, love has nowhere to land.
So instead of jumping into another app or hoping your husband finds you through a DM, try this instead.
2. Schedule Date Nights Without a Date
Pick two nights a week. Put them in your calendar and treat them like sacred time.
You don’t need a man to show up for a date night. You just need to show up for you—in a space where connection is possible.
Go to that new wine bar. Check out a cooking class. Pull up to that gallery opening. Put on your favorite outfit and step into the world with expectations.
My client did this and ended up meeting someone while leaving a salsa class. Not because she was hunting. But because she finally made space for him to meet her.
3. Go Where You Feel Good and Alive
Forget “putting yourself out there” in places that drain your energy. The goal isn’t to go where men are. It’s to go where you shine.
Try a brunch panel, a co-ed fitness class, or even a volunteering event that aligns with your values.
This isn’t about pretending or performing. It’s about being in the kinds of places where your essence is visible. Where the right man can recognize you being fully yourself.
I know you are thinking, ” But I’m Already Busy. I Don’t Have Time for This”
I hear you. Your calendar is full. Your responsibilities are real. But let me ask you this:
Are you making room for the relationship you say you want?
Because if love doesn’t have a place in your schedule now, when will it?
This is about creating space intentionally. About preparing for the husband you’re praying for by aligning your life with what you’re asking God to send.
Here’s What’s Next
If you’re 38 or older and tired of winging your love life…
If you’re ready to date with direction and stop feeling like it’s all up to luck…
Click the link to book your Work With Me Call and let’s create a plan to meet your husband even though it’s been years since you dated!
We’ll create a real plan to meet the kind of man who’s already been praying for you.
No more guessing. No more hoping it’ll happen “someday.”
Let’s make room. Let’s make it make sense.
Let’s get you the love that fits your faith, your future, and your full self.