For the High-Achieving, Hyper-Independent Christian Woman Who Has Built Everything — and Is Ready to Build a Life With Someone Worth Sharing It With
The Well Loved Movement is where high-achieving, hyper-independent women come to stop winning alone. These are women who have built careers, traveled the world, led in their industries, and created lives most people only dream about. The one thing missing is a real relationship — with a man who is secure enough to celebrate her, not compete with her. Being well loved does not begin with finding the right man. It begins with becoming a woman who chooses well, dates better, and refuses to settle for less than what she deserves. Throughout the year, Coach Marlena runs focused 8-week series — each one built around a specific topic that moves you closer to the relationship you actually want. These are not courses. They are high-touch coaching experiences designed to create real, lasting shifts in how you see yourself, how you date, and how you choose.
I've built everything on my own. I'm proud of that. But I'm exhausted by it too — and I want a partner who sees my drive as a gift, not a threat.
Every man I meet either can't keep up with me, feels intimidated, or tries to bring me down to a size he's more comfortable with.
I've been praying about this for years. I trust God's timing — but nobody in the church is telling me what to actually do while I wait.
I'm independent by necessity, not by choice. I know how to do everything alone. I just don't want to anymore.
I want a man who is a provider — not because I need to be taken care of, but because I want to be with someone who leads, invests, and shows up with intention.
I don't want to shrink. I want a man who is secure enough that I never have to.
You were taught to be excellent. To work hard, to lead, to achieve, to trust God. And you did all of it. But the same drive that built your career can quietly push away the right men — and the hyper-independence that protected you can become a wall you don't even know you're standing behind. You do not need to become less. You need a strategy that helps you find a man whose security matches your ambition. That is what this series is for.
This is not a Bible study. This is not another waiting season. This is eight weeks of real coaching built for a woman who has already done everything right — and is ready to finally get this part right too. You will not be told to want less. You will be taught how to find more.
Every week is built from real conversations with real women — the exact things they said they were struggling with, afraid of, and desperate to figure out. This is not theory. This is your life, worked on in real time.
Getting clear on what you actually want and building your real dating plan
You have been figuring this out alone — no blueprint, no roadmap, no one in the church actually telling you what to do. This week we stop guessing. You get clear on exactly what you want in a man, what you will not accept, and what the next season of your dating life is actually going to look like. Everything that comes in the next 7 weeks is built on this foundation. You walk away with: your written dating plan, a specific picture of the man you are building toward, and your personal non-negotiables grounded in character — not a checklist.
How to date with your faith intact without losing your personality, your fun, or yourself
When you gave your life to Christ, nobody told you how to still be a full, warm, fun woman while honoring God. So you became rigid. Every move felt like it might be grieving the Father. You stopped trusting yourself. This week we break that down. You learn how to date from a place of freedom and faith at the same time — not one or the other. You walk away with: a personal dating values framework that honors God without making you a robot — and the confidence to show up as your full self on every date.
Breaking out of prophecy paralysis and understanding why dating is preparation, not betrayal
You received a word. You had a dream. Your mom dreamed about him too. And now every date you go on feels like a betrayal — like you are wasting someone's time when God already told you who it is. So you stop dating. You wait. You tolerate men with no direction because you are not really invested anyway. This week we break the paralysis. Dating is not a detour from God's promise. It is how you prepare for it. You walk away with: a clear framework for the difference between faith and avoidance — and your first week of actively getting out, being visible, and opening the door for real connections.
What biblical discernment actually looks like — and how to stop being fooled by religious routine
He prays. He tithes. He knows scripture. He also pressured you, ghosted you, or showed up empty every time you needed him. Church attendance is not character. This week you learn the difference between a man who performs religion and a man who actually walks with God — and you build the specific discernment skills to tell the difference early, before you are emotionally invested. You walk away with: a Fruits of the Spirit discernment guide — a practical tool for reading a man's actual character in the first three to five interactions without interrogating him or over-investing too soon.
How to actually get out there, meet men, and be approachable without feeling like you are doing something wrong
You want to date. You are just not sure where, how, or whether you are even allowed to want it as badly as you do. Meanwhile you are inside your routine — work, church, home — and wondering why nothing is changing. This week is entirely practical. We build your shareable life and get you in the target line. Where to go. How to show up. How to be the kind of warm, open presence that makes a quality man feel safe enough to walk over. You walk away with: a specific list of 5 to 7 places and spaces to add to your life this month — and the Becoming the Barbershop challenge, a 3-week practice that women in this program have used to meet serious, marriage-minded men in everyday life.
Active discernment, your standards, and how to stop settling for available when you want aligned
Just because he appeared does not mean he is the one. Just because he is saved does not mean he is ready. And just because you have been single this long does not mean you should take whatever is in front of you. This week you learn to actively choose — not just accept. You get specific about the kind of man and relationship you are building toward, and you practice the art of discerning without dismissing. You walk away with: your locked-in standards list and a practical framework for knowing within the first few dates whether a man has real potential or is just taking up your time.
The communication, intimacy, and boundary skills that dating is supposed to teach you
You have been single long enough that being in a relationship feels almost abstract. You do not know how to tell a man what you need without it turning into an argument. You do not know how to hold your standards around intimacy without losing him or giving in. You do not know how to let someone lead without either disappearing or taking over. This week we make it practical. These are the skills dating is supposed to build — and you are going to build them before you need them. You walk away with: a communication script for the intimacy conversation, a conflict style assessment, and a clear framework for how to express your needs early without fear of rejection or losing yourself in the process.
Real situations. Live coaching. Your next dating season mapped out.
By week 8 you are not preparing anymore — you are in it. There is a man you are talking to, a date you went on, a conversation you do not know how to start, or a situation that does not quite feel right. You bring it here. Every woman gets coached live on what is actually happening in her life right now — no hypotheticals, no theory, just real coaching on your real situation. Then we close with your next dating season plan so the momentum you built in these 8 weeks does not stop when the calls do. You walk away with: Marlena's direct coaching on your specific situation and a written 90-day next season plan — where you are going, who you are looking for, and what you will not accept, long after week 8 is over.
Live coaching calls every week — teaching, Q&A, and real conversation with women who are on the same journey.
Your situation, your patterns, your specific blocks — coached in real time so you get personalized guidance, not generic advice.
Going on a date? Got a confusing message? Something doesn't feel right? Send it. 24–48 hour response so you never have to navigate this alone.
No hiding between sessions. Weekly check-ins keep you visible, moving, and honest with yourself and the group.
A space with other saved, serious, high-achieving women who actually get it. Share wins, ask questions, and stay in momentum.
A realistic, specific plan built for your life — where to meet men, how to move things forward, what to look for, and what to let go.
Marlena Cole is a Marriage Coach for Single Women and the founder of The Well Loved Movement. She works specifically with high-functioning, high-achieving women — the women who have done everything right in every other area of life and cannot understand why love has not caught up yet.
Her coaching sits at the intersection of faith, strategy, and identity. She is not here to tell you to want less, to settle, or to shrink yourself to make a man more comfortable. She is here to help you find a man whose security is big enough to stand next to a woman like you — and to teach you how to recognize him, receive him, and stop giving your time to the ones who are not him.
Dating While Saved is built for the woman who is extraordinary in every room she enters — and is ready for someone to finally see that and stay.
These women came from the first Well Loved Movement series — From Chronically Single to Courted. Their words speak for themselves.
I didn't know I had all these blocks about how my family sees me because I'm single. The first week helped me reframe this and gave me the energy to open up and actually get out of the house.
— C. FloresIt brought up a lot that I knew I was avoiding — but I didn't realize how it was keeping me hidden from the right guy and attracting the wrong men. I feel empowered that I can call in men I actually like.
— B. WoodyI thought online dating was the problem because of a bad experience. But after the first session I realized it wasn't the platform — it was my choices. That one shift changed everything.
— T. Rud8 weeks · Starts May 24th · Enrollment closes May 21st
Pay in Full
Payment plans available — ask on your enrollment call.
Spots are limited. This is a small, high-touch cohort by design.
No. You do not have to be a Christian to get results from this program. What we teach is built on biblical and spiritual principles from the Holy Bible — made practical for dating and moving toward marriage. If you are spiritual, faith-curious, or simply open to principles rooted in something bigger than a self-help framework, you are welcome here. This is not a church service. It is coaching that happens to be grounded in truth that works.
No. Dating While Saved is not built around any single denomination. Catholic, Baptist, non-denominational, charismatic — all are welcome. The principles we teach come directly from the Holy Bible and are made practical for real dating and real relationships. The faith framework works regardless of where you worship or how you practice. If you believe in God and want to date with intention, you belong here.
No. Many women join before they are dating because this series helps you get ready — mentally, emotionally, and strategically — before you put yourself out there. Others join while they are actively dating and want better results. Both are welcome.
It is a coaching program for Christian women. Your faith is the framework, not the curriculum. We are not doing Bible study. We are doing practical, strategic coaching that honors where you stand with God.
Replays will be available. That said, the live calls are where the real coaching happens — hot seats, real-time questions, and the energy of the group. We encourage you to show up live whenever possible.
Women who want to continue working with Marlena have the option to explore private coaching. Dating While Saved gives you a strong foundation — private coaching is for women who are ready to go even deeper.
Book an enrollment call. That conversation will tell both of us whether this is the right fit and the right time for you. There is no pressure — just an honest conversation about where you are and where you want to go.
Eight weeks. Real coaching. A strategy for the woman who has everything — and is ready to share it with a man who is actually worthy of her.
Book Your Enrollment CallStarts May 24th · Enrollment closes May 21st · Limited spots